"Straight Women Are On Grindr Now. Some People Dont Want Them There."

Women sticking their noses in where they dont belong while demanding that they and their noses do, in fact, belong?? they were over a decade ago too. they got rejected then they started catfishing and claiming everyone was problematic.

Women sticking their noses in where they don’t belong while demanding that they and their noses do, in fact, belong??

by Anonymousreply 1May 12, 2022 6:24 PM

they were over a decade ago too.

they got rejected then they started catfishing

and claiming everyone was problematic.

and like so many other threads, this one will get invaded by the women that say see now it's affecting you and you were never there for us. blah, blah, blah. Except they're oblivious to anything outside of their own snatch.

There's a long history of this. Even before the trans invasion, there were str8 women that identified as women but claimed to only be attracted to gay guys and demanded the right to be there. You'd also occasionally get them in bath houses - one or two and mostly there as a political statement.

We had more problems with the nonbinary types early on before nonbinary was a thing. they ruined many leather, bear and motorcycle clubs because they didn't like pda and the clubs afraid of lawsuits bent to them changing rules and most guys stopped going.

for dudes, that's the thing. you just move on to the next scene. grindr has long been waiting for the final nail.,

by Anonymousreply 2May 12, 2022 6:29 PM

So it's OK for gay men to invade female spaces and to appropriate from women, R1, you just don't like it when the tables are turned?

by Anonymousreply 3May 12, 2022 6:35 PM

R3, we aren't trying to invade female vaginas, get over yourself. They should stay out of our sexual transactions.

by Anonymousreply 4May 12, 2022 6:36 PM

Gah! It's like all the trans cunts on DL. We don't want YOU here.

by Anonymousreply 5May 12, 2022 6:36 PM

R3 Do we gays ever do that though?

by Anonymousreply 6May 12, 2022 6:37 PM

Gays don't do that, R3. Trans "women" do. 99% of TW these days are straight.

by Anonymousreply 7May 12, 2022 6:38 PM

Yeah I can't wait to go to that baby shower and next week's candle party!

by Anonymousreply 8May 12, 2022 6:50 PM

Some people need to know when they’ve crossed the line.. Like seriously.. Why do straight women do this shit.. Like it amuses them or they feel entitled to be in gay spaces… Its absolutely ridiculous. Have some decorum..

by Anonymousreply 9May 12, 2022 7:03 PM

There are way too many tall alpha men on Grindr with profiles that say “Trans only. No men!” I don’t get it. Grindr just makes me feel worse about myself.

by Anonymousreply 10May 12, 2022 7:08 PM

Are they fag hags or "gay" trans men?

by Anonymousreply 11May 12, 2022 7:11 PM

I don’t like huge amounts of women invading our gay bars.

by Anonymousreply 12May 12, 2022 7:12 PM

Grindr is now owned by two straight tech/finance guys. I’m sure they’ve done the numbers and figured out that attracting women to the app—closely followed by straight men—would bring in more money. It’s the same problem gay bars have faced: there are so many straight people that it’s hard to justify turning them away.

by Anonymousreply 13May 12, 2022 7:24 PM

[quote]So it's OK for gay men to invade female spaces

Someone tell this cunt where she is.

by Anonymousreply 14May 12, 2022 7:27 PM

r9 It went into overdrive because of sites like the huffingtonpost, jez, gawker, buzzfeed and the circlejerks on tumblr, well back when they had more social power, relevance than they are now... the biggest entitlement came when marriage equality was defeated the firs time around and from WeHo To NYC it was asked for women to spot having hen/bachlorette parties in gay spaces until we had the right. They lost their shit and the press was largely on their side, not al but most. It affected a few lesbian bars (which had their own problems with str8 women that wanted to be in a str8 men free zone but were hostile to les/bians & the college dykes that disrespected the old guard, particularly if they were old skool butch women. some see that as 2nd wave vs 3.5 wave), too, but the negative press was focused on the dudes. . . drifted between attempts at guilt to more hostile attacks.

also unhelped with the changes that have befallen women studies and lgbt studies, and other demographic based sociocultural & history studies. The uptick of interest and unis developing a lot of his programs/minors with quantity in mind over quality or following the path of long established programs. Which it is difficult to measure how much of a negative impact that has had from academics influence directly or the more layman translation of it brought onto social media and adopted in non-academic form as part of pop culture. 2nd wavers would group all this as the problems of intersectional feminism and politics trying to merge too much in one category when there's overlap but a great deal of separation as well but those boundaries are ignored and instead they all follow the same tenets, uncritical review, use the same methodologies that ignore the pragmatic and even just the prospect of being wrong. It's politically motivated by students and professors while an empty money machine for universities, many whichj don't have decidated depts to recruit students/staff by offering everything.

But that becomes word salad to most people. Academics has dealt with the problem longer. It's mostly logic games for people who haven't studied logic.

American women aren't used to be excluded and when they are - they tend to lash out. The mindset is routine, even towards gay men that we don't need private spaces but the entire world is a male dominated space. Or frequently, the quote I hear is akin to "the most dangerous thing for women is where men gather without them" - it's usually brought on when someone requests I join their campaigns to keep men out of women's spaces but I ask if they would promote keeping men's spaces and the reactions tend to become hostile. But I do have one of those faces people just want to hit.

by Anonymousreply 15May 12, 2022 7:51 PM

Wait - why in the world would straight women be on grindr??? For what purpose???

by Anonymousreply 16May 12, 2022 7:52 PM

Google kept trying to serve me an article a few days ago about Grindr's IPO. It was referred to as an LGBTQ+ dating site in the blurb, which seemed not unlike reimagining Michfest as an LGBTQ+ camping trip for the whole family.

by Anonymousreply 18May 12, 2022 8:02 PM

I don't really care about them using Grindr, but they're dumb if they think bi guys are gonna treat them any better

by Anonymousreply 19May 12, 2022 8:13 PM

Agreed r19. Seems quite misguided to think the answer to issues with straight men is bisexual men.

by Anonymousreply 20May 12, 2022 8:15 PM

Having straights only benefits bisexual and trans. Which is why a lot of spaces are being labeled LGBTQ+ to be more inclusive. And if everybody is welcome then excluding women is seen as misogyny. And with conversations around sexual preference, people have taken the opportunity to label all selectivity as bigoted.

by Anonymousreply 21May 12, 2022 10:43 PM

Some of these women are members of the crowd that write those m/m gay romance novels that litter Amazon. They're there to do "research", stringing gay men along while they cosplay so they can turn into fodder for their shitty e-books.

by Anonymousreply 22May 12, 2022 10:46 PM

Yo, I was wondering why the fuck I see women (and yes non-binary still counts) and trans women on Grindr. And then they whine that gays are rude, don't respond or block them when it's an app for hooking up. Can gays have anything anymore?

by Anonymousreply 23May 12, 2022 10:47 PM

[quote]So it's OK for gay men to invade female spaces and to appropriate from women

Trans people aren't gay men.

by Anonymousreply 25May 12, 2022 10:50 PM

Hell in a handbasket, kids.

by Anonymousreply 26May 12, 2022 10:51 PM

I don't get it. Women can have their spaces (and many are getting wise and excluding trans women (no offense but there are things that they won't get or understand and I'm not anti-trans)). Yet gays are now forced to accept women, trans men and trans women. Male-only spaces and female-only spaces serve benefits to both. I agree that things like scouting, chess, book clubs, artist studios and hiking can be integrated. But when it comes to certain topics and need for support and bonding, men and women need their separate spaces. Gay men have a narrow pool when it comes to dating and sex, Grindr is already irritating as it is with flakes, creeps, grifters and pedos but women and trans coming in and acting like they own the place is ridiculous.

by Anonymousreply 27May 12, 2022 10:54 PM

Is this an American thing? Apart from the lone tranny I have yet to see a straight woman on Grindr this side of the pond.

by Anonymousreply 28May 12, 2022 10:56 PM

My hag is on grindr to make sure her dates are not closet men

by Anonymousreply 29May 12, 2022 10:56 PM

R28 That's good. I'm American and on Grindr, Sniffies and gay Tinder, I see women, trans men and trans women. I don't understand. Granted, I know lesbians who get men in their Tinder shuffle. People in general don't respect sexual orientation or boundaries. If someone states they are bisexual (then women should reply to that) and if someone states they are open to trans (trans people should respond to that). But if someone is just gay (and states they are just gay) leave them alone unless you're a biological man.

by Anonymousreply 30May 12, 2022 11:00 PM

They don't have any stats to back up the claim that tons of women are on grindr (and they state that some of the women they interviewed were trans so how many of them are even women)

Women don't even like regular hookups apps, remember when the Ashley Madison data leaked and like 99% of the women there were revealed to be bots) the idea that tons of them are on grindr is fucking hysterical

by Anonymousreply 31May 12, 2022 11:00 PM

Notice the headline in the actual article doesn't specify "straight women"......OP added that even though the article doesn't back up the claim that all these women are straight

by Anonymousreply 32May 12, 2022 11:01 PM

R27, no one is forcing you to go out with them. If you aren't interested, don't respond

by Anonymousreply 33May 12, 2022 11:02 PM

A woman's place is in the kitchen, not on Grindr. Unless she's looking for a third because she's tired of pegging her husband.

by Anonymousreply 34May 12, 2022 11:05 PM

Whichever table you claim is turning, R3, it sure isn’t of the Algonquin Round variety.

by Anonymousreply 35May 12, 2022 11:11 PM

Why am I not surprised? They are nosy and we can’t have anything for ourselves. Just look at the fraus that come on to this site.

by Anonymousreply 36May 12, 2022 11:12 PM

R32 I'm the op and I copy/pasted the headline from the article itself. If you click on the link, you will see that it does in fact say "Straight Women Are On Grindr Now. Some People Don’t Want Them There."

by Anonymousreply 37May 12, 2022 11:13 PM

[quote]So it's OK for gay men to invade female spaces and to appropriate from women

Hun, you’re confusing trans with gays. Trans do that shit, gay men couldn’t care less about wanting to be in your “spaces.”

by Anonymousreply 38May 12, 2022 11:15 PM

I love the anti-gay male posters here. Why are you on a forum that is targeted to gay men if you hate men so much? The same posters start all these trans threads too targeting trans women and also claim trans men are innocent victims of misogyny and gays should nice to them. Some women are just so obsessed with men in general. Straight men prefer to be around each other. Gay men prefer to be around each other. Some women want male attention and validation, whether it be straight or gay.

by Anonymousreply 39May 12, 2022 11:16 PM

R37, that’s true. It’s also true that the author admits that almost half of the women he interviewed were trans women—I.e., men looking for men. So it’s confusing.

by Anonymousreply 40May 12, 2022 11:18 PM

[quote] Grindr is now owned by two straight tech/finance guys. I’m sure they’ve done the numbers and figured out that attracting women to the app—closely followed by straight men—would bring in more money. It’s the same problem gay bars have faced: there are so many straight people that it’s hard to justify turning them away.

Same thing happened with all the gay porn companies and sites. They are pushing bisexual porn, straight porn and trans porn now. The ads have so many women. They are basically trying to appeal to everyone and pleasing NOBODY.

by Anonymousreply 41May 12, 2022 11:20 PM

As you can tell by some of the replies on this thread, many straight women have invaded Datalounge as well.

by Anonymousreply 42May 12, 2022 11:29 PM

Wasn't West Hollywood gentrified by tons of straight yuppies too?

by Anonymousreply 44May 12, 2022 11:31 PM

R44 Yep. Straights are obsessed with us.

by Anonymousreply 45May 12, 2022 11:39 PM

R44, this is a common pattern in gentrification. Gay men move into a borderline neighborhood, change it, then get priced out by straight couples.

by Anonymousreply 46May 12, 2022 11:39 PM

Next thing you know, they’ll show up at some orgy for pipe-smoking, middle-aged leather bears with a tray of freshly baked cookies and potluck snacks.

by Anonymousreply 47May 12, 2022 11:40 PM

Do straight men like ftm porn? idk. But I'm guessing there is a large number of men who live as heteros but sometimes they are interested in watching mmf porn. It's a market, and the gay sites would rather take that money then let it go to the straights.

by Anonymousreply 48May 13, 2022 12:39 AM

[quote]Hun, you’re confusing trans with gays. Trans do that shit, gay men couldn’t care less about wanting to be in your “spaces.”

No, I think YOU are confused. The "straight" women on grinder are not straight women at all. They are trannies pretending to be women. All of them---even the supposed 50% who claimed to be real girls undoubtedly were not. They were MfF.

by Anonymousreply 49May 13, 2022 12:57 AM

R49 I would have thought that too but the article claims damaged straight women looking for bisexual boyfriends are on it. Maybe it’s a handful of them.

by Anonymousreply 50May 13, 2022 12:59 AM

R50, rabid trannies insist that they are real women. They would never ID themselves, insultingly, simply as trans. To them they ARE real women and would answer any survey as such.

by Anonymousreply 51May 13, 2022 1:04 AM

The two women interviewed for the article identify as "pansexual", and one is a sex worker. These aren't your run-of-the-mill fraus we're talking about here.

[quote]she turned to Grindr, a dating app [bold]originally[/bold] designed for gay men

At least they were honest about the choice of words here.

by Anonymousreply 52May 13, 2022 1:04 AM

It would help if gay men all worked together to drive straight women out of gay spaces.

by Anonymousreply 53May 13, 2022 1:04 AM

[quote]It would help if gay men all worked together to drive trannies out of gay spaces.

Fixed

by Anonymousreply 54May 13, 2022 1:06 AM

R51 ugh you’re right. They would insist that. And the writer probably couldn’t say otherwise because god forbid.

by Anonymousreply 55May 13, 2022 1:06 AM

R49 Most trans women irl don't pass for real women. Only the models and actresses do since they have money. Why would gay men like about straight women in Grindr? We have eyes and seen it. They are on gay Tinder too.

R54 nice try but straight women are not gay men. So yes they should not be in gay spaces unless invited.

by Anonymousreply 56May 13, 2022 1:08 AM

r48 mtf transporn, ladyboys and pre-op/crossdressers/drag queens appeal to str8 and bi male market predominately.

ftm porn broadly appeals more to str8 women -- it gets explained in a way akin to why so many lesbians like gay male porn. feminism / the male gaze / often cosplay or BL/yaoi fans. Then it breaks down to trans, str8, gay, bi male audiences. bi ranks the least on bonus holes interest followe by gay whose interest in trans porn seems more str8-curious novelty and drug induced, some lesbians enjoy ftm but mostly stick to the pre-op/drag-king stuff, while str8 dudes - there's a lot of str8 dudes that are into a lot of things, it's a small percentage for their overall interests but are just behind or at the level of str8 women. str8 people are into bonus hole action,

basically, I find more gay guys to prefer str8 porn over trans porn but ultimately m/m wins out - we've got the most diversed subcategories of interests, more str8 men to str8 porn & cd twinks/ladyboy, bi men seem the most binary overall but it's like 60/40% and then it's more for drawn/anime futanari than live action porn, str8 women overall seem to have the most diverse taste range when it comes to porn but most prefer stories (they rank the highest on interest in tv fanfics of any type) and gravitate towards porn with stories regardless of sex, gender, sexuality, etc . lesbians are the most split on what's preferred because even just getting off is politicalized in their circles. . . so much peer pressure.

r53 I recall one of the sites required guys to write down their screen name, date and pose fully naked with the sign before they would be verified.

by Anonymousreply 57May 13, 2022 1:09 AM

I'm amused by the number of people who refer to Grindr as a "dating" app on the Buzzfeed website.

This did though catch my eye

[quote]I'm glad there's women joining Grindr because the LGBT community has a heavy presence on hetero dating apps like Bumble and Tinder.

I don't know if this is true or not, but fair is fair.

by Anonymousreply 58May 13, 2022 1:12 AM

The 'Her' app has the same problem with straight men being on it. I signed up a few weeks ago, and so help me, a large portion of my likes are from biological men.

I specifically went on there to [bold]avoid[/bold] men. Nope. Still have to be bothered with them. And I've heard if you complain, they will suspend your account.

Most of them are trans women who are "lesbians," but I've seen whole men on there, as well. The fact that they have the nerve to actually like profiles, also, is irritating. I couldn't semi-understand if they were only liking bi women's profiles, but I'm not bi and my profile specifically says that I am not. In fact, what my profile does say, however, should pretty much guarantee left swipes, anyway. But I guess people (men in particular) don't pay attention. Shocker.

by Anonymousreply 59May 13, 2022 1:18 AM

R48, Some 100% straight men are curious or seeking something different perhaps for a LOL with their buds. Yes I've known plenty who confess to watching all kinds of trans porn.

However I believe that those who watch MTF trans porn more than a few times are at least somewhat gay/bi. Most won't admit publicly that they're not straight however.

by Anonymousreply 60May 13, 2022 1:41 AM

People also need to remember. Porn is just a fantasy. Most people would never engage in stuff they watch or read or dream about it. Straight men watch trans porn but it's always pre op. It's because they like to see dick. The male brain is wired to be more aroused at the sight of a dick. Not because they are attracted to men but because it's competition. It's because early mankind engaged in orgies which is why women have multiple orgasms.

by Anonymousreply 61May 13, 2022 1:50 AM

Just another example of how straight women are so annoying, and why gays have such a tumultuous relationship with them.

by Anonymousreply 62May 13, 2022 4:05 AM

I haven't seen straight women in my neck of the woods on Grindr. The one exception was this woman who told me "I'm staying with my aunt. She's away on a business trip, so why don't you come over and pound me?" Which was odd, because 1) it was at the start of the pandemic, when no one was traveling on business, and 2) no women asks a guy to "pound" her within 5 minutes of meeting a guy. Unless she's a prostitute, but a female prostitute is barking up the wrong tree on Grindr.

by Anonymousreply 63May 13, 2022 4:30 AM

r63 Your situation sounds like a catfish bot that downloaded the wrong app. Amateur programming mistake.

by Anonymousreply 64May 13, 2022 4:38 AM

^ Speaking of which, be careful. AI is getting more advanced. I think the bots are reaching a level close to sentience.

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by Anonymousreply 65May 13, 2022 4:41 AM

Sorry I don't buy this at all. Gay bars are different, there is a social/dance element to it. Grindr is for people looking to get laid, which doesn't really interest women in general and if it did, they'd seek out sex with straight men. The tranny thing is the most likely explanation.

by Anonymousreply 66May 13, 2022 4:45 AM

^Yep. Just like when news articles say a "woman" has committed a crime, but it was actually a man in dress.

by Anonymousreply 67May 13, 2022 10:42 AM

Marriage is between a man and a woman.

by Anonymousreply 68May 13, 2022 11:05 AM

Their idea is apparently that a more oppressed group should have access to spaces of a less oppressed group, but not the other way round. Since straight women are considered more oppressed than (white) gay men, they should be allowed in their spaces, but they shouldn’t be allowed in spaces f.i. belonging to trans-women-of-colour-who-are-also-sex-workers, who are basically the Darfur Orphans of Western civilisation. They’ve simply replaced one hierarchy with another.

by Anonymousreply 69May 13, 2022 1:33 PM

“Straight women are considered more oppressed than (white) gay men”.

By whom?…

by Anonymousreply 70May 13, 2022 2:20 PM

LOL

If a straight woman thinks Grindr is a great place to meet men - let them waste their time.

That said, don't get your panties in a bunch if people simply delete and block you.

by Anonymousreply 71May 13, 2022 3:08 PM

[quote]Since straight women are considered more oppressed than (white) gay men

Ugh. Anyone who believes that women are more oppressed than gay men is a fucking moron.

by Anonymousreply 72May 13, 2022 3:33 PM

Remember how there are tons of straight women who crush hard on gay men, and who try to 'sway' them to sleep with them in order to feed their own egos that they are such gorgeous women that even gay men will sleep with them after a few drinks or a hit of Molly?

Yeah, well during the pandemic these pathetic women decided to go on our hookup apps to try their luck...that's what's happening here, and it ain't all Trans men.

by Anonymousreply 73May 13, 2022 7:14 PM

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by Anonymousreply 74May 13, 2022 7:20 PM

[quote] Remember how there are tons of straight women who crush hard on gay men

No I don't and neither do you R73. But keep peddling the BS, I guess no man wants your ugly ass so it helps your ego to pretend women do.

by Anonymousreply 75May 13, 2022 7:32 PM

r75 I will never understand running narrative that keeps getting peddled by numerous DLers swearing up and down that straight women run from bisexual men because they sometimes have sex with men but are somehow also jumping through all kinds of hoops to get with gay men who [bold]always[/bold] have sex with men.

Make it make sense.

by Anonymousreply 76May 13, 2022 9:45 PM

I’ve seen women on Grindr, I figured they are seeing it as a way to make friends. I never once thought they were looking for sex.

by Anonymousreply 77May 13, 2022 9:49 PM

Women aren’t looking for sex on straight hookup apps so I figure why would they be looking for it on Grindr. They want to chat.

by Anonymousreply 78May 13, 2022 9:50 PM

Nobody is saying every straight woman is like this. We're saying there are a subset of straight women who idealize gay and bi men and want to be close to them hence they appear on Grindr and gay Tinder. It may not be sexual but it's still a fetish of an emotional sort. I always wondered why some straight women prefer gay male friends to other women? Why don't they befriend lesbians? Many straight men have gay friends? But I noticed many straight women don't seem to have lesbian friends.

by Anonymousreply 79May 13, 2022 9:52 PM

The poster said there are "tons of straight women" who have crushes on gay men, which is utter BS. There is a tiny minority at most, and it's not the same as straight women with gay friends, as a crush implies a sexual element.

It's perfectly reasonable for gay men to want a dating/hookup app all to themselves but don't make up shit.

by Anonymousreply 80May 13, 2022 10:03 PM

Does anyone think that straight women might be allowed to enter GAY bathhouses.

by Anonymousreply 81May 13, 2022 10:15 PM

I get the sense that lesbians don’t have a ton of patience for straight women.

by Anonymousreply 82May 13, 2022 11:26 PM

Why???? They’re not going to get any.

by Anonymousreply 83May 13, 2022 11:31 PM

They infiltrate and destroy from within (Craigslist).

by Anonymousreply 84May 13, 2022 11:37 PM

I think marketing grindr to straight people will bring GREAT consequences to society. Only Fans and Tinder are bad enough, most gals don't have the durability to be sent 5 dick pics from random men in an hour. I'm sure straight guys will literally triangulate women and gang rape them. It isn't a good idea, and I'm really going to disown Grinder if they go down that path.

by Anonymousreply 85May 13, 2022 11:42 PM

Do you blame them? Gay men care more about our bodies than straight guys do. I don’t care if they creep in silence anymore than I care if some fat jurassic caftan granny creeps me.

by Anonymousreply 87May 13, 2022 11:48 PM

R79, I'd prefer gay men as strictly platonic friends to straight, women.

It's like reading DL compared to reading People. However I would never go on Grindr or any other kind of hook-up app. Not the purpose of Grindr.

by Anonymousreply 88May 14, 2022 12:30 AM

[quote]I get the sense that lesbians don’t have a ton of patience for straight women.

Straight women don't even have a ton of patience for straight women.

by Anonymousreply 89May 14, 2022 1:06 AM

The level of misogyny and anti transgender hatred on Datalounge is palpable. It contributes to depression in these groups. This makes them overeat, become obese, making them even bigger targets for ridicule by gay men.

Stop the misogyny and anti transgender hatred on Datalounge.

It’s killing us.

#stopitpleasebeforewealldie.

by Anonymousreply 90May 14, 2022 1:12 AM

How clueless, R75. You need to get out more. Straight chicks trying their luck with gay men has been a thing since forever.

by Anonymousreply 92May 14, 2022 2:52 AM

Agree r92. Look at Lea Michele talking about how in madly love she was with Jonathan Groff. The dynamic is nothing new.

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